HOW TO HANDLE FEAR AND STRESSFUL SITUATIONS
Fear is an emotion that serves a needed purpose. It alerts us to danger and can keep us from harm. That fear triggers a response; some of you might have heard it called the “flight or fight” response. I’m a flight person, while my husband is a fight guy.
The problem with fear is that it can trigger the same response to perceived dangers. We can conjure up fear in our minds about a situation that isn’t an actual threat, but our bodies can’t tell the difference. My fear of the unknown has kept me from enjoying activities that others who aren’t fearful get to experience.
Some fearful situations are the ones we can’t predict or know the outcome. Joe is a pessimist in this situation, while I’m an optimist and always think everything will be fine. Most of the time, the situation is neither horrible nor terrific but somewhere in-between. I have a fear of flying, while Joe owns a plane and loves to fly. We could go on lots of short trips and enjoy places that we would never drive to for a short trip, but my fear keeps us from going.
I have gotten better about flying commercially, although I’m still not a huge fan. My sister once shared a thought that made so much sense that it calms me down when I have to fly. She said, “why worry? You are not in control of anything in life.”
She explained that God is the only one who knows the outcome of any situation, and no matter how much I worry or am afraid, the outcome will be the same. Strangely, it calmed me down instead of panicking that I was not in control. If someone has to be in control, I would much rather it be the Lord than me.
10 So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
8 The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”
My sister shared a book (Hind’s Feet on High Places) that she has read several times, so I downloaded it on Audible and listened to it on my way back from my parents. This is an allegory tale about a girl named Much-Afraid. “Follow Much-Afraid on her spiritual journey through difficult places with her two companions, Sorrow and Suffering. Learn how Much-Afraid overcomes her tormenting fears as she passes through many dangers and mounts at last to the High Places. There she gains a new name and then returns to her valley of service, transformed by her union with the loving Shepherd.”
This is a fabulous book on fear and how she learns to trust in the Shepherd and submit her will to His. I LOVED this book, and I’m ready to listen to it again and take notes. One of the lessons I took away from this was about how the Shepherd was always with her, and when she was confused or afraid, all she had to do was call on Him. The Shepherd would appear immediately so that she could explain to Him her issue.
We can also call on Holy Spirit; even though He isn’t going to appear by our side visually, He is still there. We can tell Him our fears, our concerns and ask for direction. He will walk with us and guide us, but we must also do our part. We have to communicate, listen, and watch for Him to give us instructions.
If you’ve ever struggled with fear or the lack of control in a situation, this book is one you might consider reading.
To God Goes The Glory!
Have A Blessed Day!