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Why a Clit-Sucking Vibrator Is the Sex Toy Your Relationship Needs

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It might be time to forget the old vibrator, everyone. Just kidding—don’t do that. But do recognize that sextech has evolved since the Hitachi Magic Wand came out in the ’60s, and now there are clit-sucking vibrators for people with a vulva. We’re talking about sex toys that simulate oral sex—it’s a revolution, and we are here for it.

To fully understand the magic of clit-sucking vibrators, we first need to understand how orgasms work, physiologically.

Whether you have a penis or a vulva, “orgasm involves blood flowing and staying in the erectile tissue in the genitals, and then that blood being released by rhythmic contractions of the pelvic floor,” explains Laurie Mintz, Ph.D., Lelo sexpert and author of Becoming Cliterate. For penis owners, the erectile tissue is in the penis, and for vulva owners, it’s in the clitoris (which extends up to 5 inches inside the body, BTW).

“Unlike traditional vibrators, which are often designed to press directly against the head of the clitoris, clit-sucking toys are generally designed to sit around the head of the clitoris, enveloping it and delivering bursts of air or sonic waves,” Mintz says. “This creates stimulation for the internal and external clitoris and causes blood to flow to the area—which is the foundation for orgasm!”

Okay, now that we understand the physiology, let’s talk clitoral suction vibrators and sex because the game is changing, and you should get on board.

What exactly is a clit-sucking vibrator?

A clit-sucking vibrator works by using a combination of air, suction, and a little vibration to deliver orgasms on the fly. Companies like Womanizer, Satisfyer, and Lelo are the leading brands of the moment, making some of the best toys on the market.

Clit-sucking vibrators come in all different shapes and sizes, but they all have some kind of nozzle, or opening, that goes over the glans clitoris (the part of the clitoris on the outside of the vulva). It then “sucks” on the external clitoris similarly to how a partner might use their mouth during oral sex.

Megwyn White, a sexual wellness expert and resident sexpert for Satisfyer, says that these toys “use an incredible wave-like pulse to coax the clitoris into orgasms that are off the charts. Many [clitoris-owners] say that this is unlike any other stimulation than they have ever felt and actually draws out the clitoris to play and partake in deeper levels of trust and surrender while inviting the whole body to open to receiving waves of orgasm.”

These toys also provide a less intense sensation than traditional clitoral vibrators, which can be overwhelming or too much for some, Mintz explains.

Cole adds that these toys have both ergonomic designs and are quiet, which are key components in couple’s play. You won’t be distracted by the buzzing of a vibrator and won’t run the risk of feeling #intimidated by a sex toy. It’s a win for everyone.

Here are 11 of the best clitoral suction vibrators to buy:

In addition to clit-suckers that we’ve tried out and loved, we also reached out to quite a few experts for recommendations: Ashley Cobb, a sexpert for Lovehoney, Taylor Sparks, erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven, Sofiya Alexandra, co-host of Private Parts Unknown, a podcast exploring love and sexuality around the world, and Courtney Kocak, Alexandra’s co-host at Private Parts Unknown.

Here are the clit-suckers they recommend:

    “One of my all-time favorites is the Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator,” Cobb says. “It’s somehow both a very gentle yet intense experience. You can also use it on your nipples, which actually feels great.”

      “The newest air-suction toy on the market, the Satisfyer Love Triangle, is a delight as it combines the air-suction technology with deep vibrations,” Sparks says. “Better still, it can be controlled via the Satisfyer app.”

      “I also love recommending the Romp Shine to those who are seeking a less pricey option,” Sparks says. “It has 10 intensity levels and a discrete motor.”

        “If you like all the pleasure and want something that penetrates in addition to sucking you off, Zalo’s Rose Series Vibrator combines a girthy g-spot vibrator with air-suction clitoral stimulation,” Kocak says. “The toy comes in yellow which is a unique color for a vibrator and the insertable part of this vibe is thicker than most dual-stimulation models, making it perfect for size queens.”

          “My next personal favorite is the Womanizer Liberty,” Cobb says. “It’s petite and easy to travel with. It also has a magnetic travel cover for discretion. You can literally drop it in your pocket, and no one would know it was there.”

            “Dame Aer is more accessible under $100, and with the larger mouthpiece is more inclusive for different clit sizes,” Alexandra says.

            Combining both pleasure and aesthetics, this clitoral suction device feels great and looks like a rose. (Cute! Romantic!)

            “I’m a huge fan of LELO, in general, but I absolutely love their SONA 2 Cruise because it’s super high-quality, the design is stunning, and it’s got built-in ‘cruise control,’ a.k.a the intensity automatically increases when it’s pressed hard against the body,” Kocak says.

            Mintz notes that the SILA cruise is similar to the SONA, “with the SONA building orgasm more quickly and the SILA more slowly. The SONA has a smaller mouth/opening to put around the clitoris, and the SILA has a larger one.”

              “There are now many companies who have similar technology in their toys,” Sparks says. “I recommend the Baci by Lora Di Carlo because, in addition to the pleasure air technology that stimulates the clitoral hood, it vibrates down the ‘legs’ of the clitoris.”

                Cobb recommends the Womanizer Duo. “It’s the best of both worlds,” she says. It’s a clitoral and G-spot stimulator that creates explosive blended orgasms.

                How do I use a clit-sucking vibrator with my vulva-owning partner?

                Start with foreplay.

                As with any sexual situation—or physical activity—you’ll want to start with a warm-up. Foreplay is so important. You should not, under any circumstances, be putting anything inside a person’s vagina without it being wet and ready (and with lube).

                White suggests using some of your partner’s favorite all-natural lube or vagina-friendly massage oil to stimulate their clitoris manually. Stroke gently and consistently. When they’re ready, place the toy over their clitoris. Up the intimacy with deep kissing and eye contact. This kind of play tends to be intense. Lean into that intensity.

                Use the toy on more than just the clitoris. The suction of these toys means they can be utilized for other erogenous zones as well. “Have you ever tried to stimulate the nipples with it?” says Johanna Rief, Womanizer’s Global Head of Communications.

                Encourage them to breathe into their body and relax. This is all about them. “Breath is so important to getting a [person] to fully surrender to sensual pleasure and to draw out [their] deepest yearnings. Getting a [person] to drop into [their] breath, and ease into the sensual flow of [their] body can take some patience and priming,” White says.

                Combine oral sex with a clit-sucking vibrator.

                Oral sex-like toys don’t mean oral itself is off the table. You can have your cake and eat it too. Literally.

                Your mouth is magic, but adding in a toy is a whole other experience. “Oral sex offers an incredible means of activating orgasmic pleasure while also staying in the softer space of arousal to allow a [person] to drop more into [their] sensual embodiment,” White explains.

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                Have your partner place the toy on their clitoris. Use your tongue to stimulate the rest of their vulva. Lick the labia, gently tease the vaginal opening, and even try penetrating them with your tongue. All of this helps to awaken the nerve endings in their clitoral network, greatly intensifying pleasure. “Hold the hand at the bum with a palm grip and use that hand to create a strong anchor to stay connected to the body and use the pc-muscles to unlock orgasmic energy,” White adds.

                You can use your fingers to stimulate your partner’s G-spot area. Place two fingers inside the vagina and hook upward toward the belly button. Rock against this area in a come hither motion. Remember to always communicate with your partner about how they are feeling and what feels good for them.

                Use a clitoral suction toy during intercourse.

                While using a clit-sucking vibrator may sound a bit on the tricky side, it actually isn’t. Involving the external clitoris in your intercourse action makes sex better. “By activating the clit you naturally amplify the arousal of penetrative sex through engorging the area around the vaginal canal,” White adds.

                The key is to find easy ways to keep the toy over the clitoris while enjoying intercourse at the same time. It’s not so different from bringing a handheld vibrator into the bedroom…just possibly more orgasmic.

                The three easiest positions for clit-sucking toy beginners are missionary, doggy style, and cowgirl. Keep it simple to start. You can always explore other positions later. To start, have your partner hold the toy against their clitoris. This way, they’ll know if it’s in the right place.

                Your bodyweight can help hold the toy in place during missionary, while in doggy style, your partner can reach between their legs with the toy. The combined stimulation of clitoris suction and penetration can be downright explosive.

                “In cowgirl, the [receiving partner] is sitting up, so [they] can use the clit sucker with [their] hands,” Mintz says. “Bonus: You can play with [their] breasts and get full visual access to [their] body at the same time.”

                If you decide not to use the toy during intercourse, afterward is always an excellent option. “After penetrative sex is another way to include the clit-sucking toy, especially if your partner did not orgasm during intercourse,” Rief says.

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