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The Best Fleshlight and Stroking Toys for Men 2022: Get a Grip

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We rounded up the best fleshlight and other stroking sex toys because there are a lot of unfair social pressures we put on all genders when it comes to sexual pleasure. Sex toys have completely revolutionized the way many people with vulvas and clitorises experience pleasure, and vibrators and the like have increasingly become a normal staple in the bedroom.

But there’s no reason to stop there, because there are tons of male-focused sex toys specifically designed to give people with penises a chance to explore down there. You slip it inside and move it up and down—it’s like a high-tech handy. 

 You may be thinking that these toys are seedy or strange. You may remember cringing the first time you heard the term “Fleshlight.” But, like all male sex toys, male masturbators (or masturbation sleeves) simply give guys a chance to experiment with their pleasure and to try new kinds of stimulation, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Also: Using one of these things can help with partnered sex, since you’re not getting into the habit of needing gorilla grip to climax.  

What is a stroking toy?

Fleshlights and other such toys basically do what your hand does: They can be stroked up and down on your dick in a way that (hopefully) feels good. But these toys are lined with a soft, squishy, textured material—typically elastomer—which can feel less like your hand and more like penetrative sex or a blowjob.

“Whilst a hand is perfectly capable, sometimes it’s just not enough,” sex toy reviewer David of The Big Gay Review, a website with nearly 100 different masturbators reviews, says. “There’s a primal urge about wanting to thrust yourself into something.” 

The variety offered by strokers also makes them a great upgrade from your hand. In addition to the wide range of internal textures available, you can also experiment with strokers that vibrate, rotate, suck, and pulse. “With strokers of so many shapes and sizes available, it’s fun to explore,” says David.

What is a Fleshlight?

Much like how Kleenex is such a ubiquitous brand that a lot of us refer to tissues solely by that name, Fleshlight is such a trailblazing company in the sex toy industry that its name is often invoked when strokers are being discussed as a whole. 

The brand’s good reputation is warranted: Its product line is widely varied in terms of sensations, appearances, and price points, and sex toy critics are always giving praise to the brand in their Fleshlight reviews. “A Fleshlight was the first major sex toy I ever purchased, way back in 2009. I still have it!” he says. “With good care, they can last a long time. I think that’s a good testament to their quality and longevity.”

As a gay man, David also appreciates that Fleshlight markets its products to anyone with a penis, regardless of sexual orientation. Its best-known toys are designed for men who are into women, often depicting the mouths or vulvas of female porn stars, while their Fleshjack line is aimed at gay men, offering several toys modeled after the butts, mouths, and dicks of male porn stars. 

However, don’t be too quick to write off other brands. While many consider Fleshlight the gold standard, there are countless other companies making strokers of various kinds; David especially recommends Tenga and Hot Octopuss.

How do you use a stroking toy?

“It should go without saying,” David says, “but lube, lube, and lots of lube!” For the same reason you probably wouldn’t enjoy a completely dry blowjob, strokers need to be well-lubed to do their best work. Go with a water-based lube, as silicone- and oil-based options can damage the material of your toy.

David also suggests that you “take it slow and just enjoy exploring the different sensations that a stroker can give you.” If you’re accustomed to racing toward the finish line when you jerk off, using a toy can be a helpful reminder that pleasure is the point, and that you can and should enjoy the journey as much as the destination, if not more so.

Looking for a more realistic sensation? “My top tip for a good first-time session with a Fleshlight [is to] pop the sleeve out of the case and pop it in some warm water for about 15 minutes,” David says. This’ll heat up the stroker so that it’s closer to your natural body temperature and feels more like you’re actually having sex.

Lastly, cleaning is crucial when it comes to strokers. “Make sure that when you are done, you thoroughly clean [your toy] and allow it to fully dry before you store it away,” David says. Yes, it can feel like a hassle to wash out your toy in the immediate afterglow of orgasm, but leaving it dirty—or shoving it back into its case before it’s fully dried—can shorten its lifespan and may cause mold to grow inside. (Gross!)

Now that you know a bit more about strokers, let’s talk about some of the best ones available.


The Best Fleshlight: Fleshlight Pink Lady

Fleshlight Pink Lady

There are many newer models are on the market, but “Fleshlight” has become the usual way to refer to these toys for a reason. The company’s original, best-selling model features a super soft realistic feel, along with human-like textures within. It’s the closest thing to the real thing when you’re practicing solo. If you’re a beginner and this is your first Fleshlight, you (and your sex life) are in for a treat.

The Most Luxurious Stroker: Lelo F1s V2

Lelo F1s V2 Male Vibrator

More fun with solo sex? There’s an app for that. Lelo’s new F1S V2 is the Maybach of masturbation toys: it’s incredibly powerful, extra soft and stretchy on the inside, and has ten sensors allowing for feedback, and the the whole experience is totally customizable through the Lelo app on your phone. 

The Best Disposable Stroking Toy: Tenga Egg

Not sold on the idea of a stroker yet? Try a disposable one and see what you think! Tenga Eggs are squishy handheld strokers with highly stimulating textures inside. They can be used three to four times if you wash and dry them properly between uses, so you can get a feel for the sensations offered by strokers before you decide whether to buy a longer-lasting toy.

The Best Portable Fleshlight: Fleshlight Go Torque

Fleshlight Go Torque

If you and your partner are into voyeurism and exhibitionism, or if you’re long-distance and like to have video sex, this toy is a fantastic pick. The sleeve and casing are both see-through, so your sweetie will get the view of a lifetime while you’re using it. This one is also more petite than your standard Fleshlight, making it perfect for throwing in a suitcase or stashing in an overstuffed nightstand drawer.

The Most Innovative Stroking Toy: Arcwave Ion 

Arcwave Ion

“Pressure-wave technology” is often found in toys marketed at women these days; it stimulates the clitoris “touchlessly” using rhythmic air waves. Now this technology is available in a toy for penises too. The Arcwave works its magic on your sensitive frenulum, for truly mind-blowing orgasms.

The Best Stroking Toy for Long-Distance Couples: Lovense Max 2

Lovense Max 2

This stroker combines vibration with rhythmic suction, creating intense sensations whether you’re stroking it up and down or just holding it still. It also connects to Lovense’s Bluetooth app, so you can control the toy with your smartphone, or let a partner take the wheel for some long-distance fun.

The Best Stroking Toy for Building Stamina: Fleshlight Pink Lady Stamina Training Unit 

Fleshlight Pink Lady Stamina Training Unit

It might seem counterintuitive that a toy made to provide intense pleasure could also help you last longer, but the Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit is designed to do exactly that. The ribbed internal texture is so super-stimulating that once you learn to hold off for longer with this toy, it’ll be much easier to do the same with a partner. But even if that’s not your goal, this is still a high-quality stroker that feels great.

The Best Discreet Stroking Toy: Tenga Flip Zero

Tenga Flip Zero

“I am a huge fan of the Tenga brand of strokers,” David says. “They are of amazing quality, particularly the Flip Zero, [which combines] soft, flesh-like texture with suction and adjustable pressure. It’s sheer perfection!” The discreetly nondescript and non-gendered exterior of this toy are selling points for many users as well.

The Best Easy-to-Clean Stroking Toy: Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage

Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage

Fleshlight’s Quickshot strokers are less than half the size of their regular ones, making them way more affordable and travel-friendly. Being open-ended on both sides, this Fleshlight model can be combined with other forms of stimulation–your partner can give you oral sex while using the stroker on you, for example. It’s also much easier to clean than a standard Fleshlight.

The Best Vibrating Stroking Toy: Hot Octopuss Pulse

Hot Octopuss Pulse

“If you want to take your stroking sessions to the next level, consider something that vibrates too, like the Hot Octopuss Pulse,” David advises. “It targets the sensitive frenulum for an all-encompassing sensation that will have your toes curling!” It’s also a smart pick for anyone who struggles with erectile dysfunction, because its open design allows it to be used whether you’re hard or soft.

The Best Manual Stroking Toy: Fleshlight Fleshskins Grip

Fleshlight Fleshskins Grip

It can be tough to adjust to strokers when you’re used to using your hand, but this product bridges the gap between the two. It’s a handheld stroker, with finger-holes for a better grip. Just like your hand, it’ll feel tighter or looser depending on how much pressure you’re applying, but it brings some different textures to the table that your hand alone just doesn’t.

The Best Stroking Toy for a Perfect Fit: Arcwave Voy

Arcwave Voy

The tightness of this compact stroker can be manually adjusted to get the perfect fit for your girth, so it’s an especially good choice for people who like a tight squeeze. Since it’s open-ended, you can clean it easily between uses.

The Best Automatic Stroking Toy: The Handy

An ideal toy for when you’re feeling lazy, the hands-free Handy does the stroking for you. All you have to do is lube it up, slip your dick inside and turn it on. You can adjust the speed and length of the stroke as needed, and can even adjust the tightness using the toy’s Velcro strap.

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